The way in which we relate to other people vis-à-vis the way in which we relate to ourselves.
Jesus said, “And why beholdest thou the mote that is in thy brother’s eye, but considerest not the beam that is in thine own eye? Or how wilt thou say to thy brother, Let me pull out the mote out of thine eye; and, behold, a beam is in thine own eye? Thou hypocrite, first cast out the beam out of thine own eye; and then shalt thou see clearly to cast out the mote out of thy brother’s eye.” Matthew 7:3-5
Isn’t that tremendous? People who have low self esteem do so because they’ve adopted a victim mindset, probably caused by what might have happened to them in the past. They may have experienced some hurts, some rejections, delays and let downs, you name it. And what they take from these experiences is that they’re the victims who probably are not good enough. If they’re the victims, it means the perpetrator is there somewhere on the lose where he/she is continuing to thrieve, but the strong man of the house is much tougher and stronger than they. So they feel defeated or let down. What do they then do? They continue with the victim mindset and this is how low esteem comes in one’s life.
People who have a victim mindset are completely self consumed. The only people whom they see and perceive is their own. They are unable to consider what life is for anyone else, determining also how they relate or communicate with other people. Some say let’s not talk to them.
But humans are relational beings, whether we are aware of it or not we’re all relating one with one another, we’re all communicating all the time through the things we sometimes say or through the things we sometimes don’t say.
So I’m asking you guys, how are you presenting yourselves to others; to your friends, families, world or even to the bad guys?
How we relate to other people is going to be determined by how we perceive ourselves too – i.e., how well we relate to ourselves.