“So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.” Ephesians 5:28
How do you love yourself, or your own body? You do by taking good care of yourself – you wash yourself, to make sure you look nice and clean. “That is how husbands should treat their wives, loving them as parts of themselves. For since a man and his wife are now one, a man is really doing himself a favor and loving himself when he loves his wife!” (Ephesians 5:28).
How do you actually learn to love your own body? It’s because there is dialogue within your inner self, spirit, soul and body and you demonstrate you actually want to learn about your beliefs both true and false, but willing to feel pain and take responsibility for your feelings and to evaluate your actions and then take the loving skills developed. “So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. For no man ever hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church” (Ephesians 5:28-29). Verse 17 says. “Wherefore be ye not unwise, but understanding what the will of the Lord is.”
It is the will of the Lord that as husband and wife you should learn to submit “yourselves one to another in the fear of God” (Ephesians 5:21). You would know if you’re loving or controlling or abandoning yourself, or same if husband or wife is loving or controlling too. Invite the loving presence of God into your heart that you be able to love, and consciously open up to learning about loving yourself so that you will find it easy to love others too.
Again Ephesians 5:25-28 says, “Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.”
Show the same kind of love to your wife as Christ showed to the Church when he died for her, so that he could give her to himself as a glorious Church.