The best way you can deal with anger is to not suppress your feelings. Jacob, and Rachel refused to be comforted in their days of trouble. David says in Psalm 77:1-2, “I cried unto God with my voice, even unto God with my voice; and he gave ear unto me. In the day of my trouble I sought the Lord: my sore ran in the night, and ceased not: my soul refused to be comforted.”
But when you grieve always remember to turn all offences over to the Lord, before sunset. Allow God to deal with the situation.
- What, when, how or whom are you most likely to be irritable?
- What is it about your country, surroundings, leaders, family, and friends that irritates you?
Take it to the Lord in prayer! What that means is, make plans to deal with the situation biblically. When you’re told to pray, it doesn’t mean do nothing or don’t think. Praying is engaging God in your situation – it is putting on the divine.
To put on gentleness, you first
“…put off concerning the former conversation the old man, which is corrupt according to the deceitful lusts;
 And be renewed in the spirit of your mind;
 And that ye put on the new man, which after God is created in righteousness and true holiness.
 Wherefore putting away lying, speak every man truth with his neighbour: for we are members one of another.
 Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath:
 Neither give place to the devil.
 Let him that stole steal no more: but rather let him labour, working with his hands the thing which is good, that he may have to give to him that needeth.
 Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers.
 And grieve not the holy Spirit of God, whereby ye are sealed unto the day of redemption.
 Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamour, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice:
 And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you.” Ephesians 4:22-32
Gentleness means forbearing, large-hearted, courteous, generous, lenient, moderate. These are qualities which are opposite to irritability, rudeness, abrasiveness.
“Always be full of joy in the Lord; I say it again, rejoice!” (Philippians 4:4).
– be Ye angry! but sin not – remain gentle.